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New York Times BestsellerIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**New York Times BestsellerIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives....

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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life Reviews

  • Khadidja
    2018-11-05 17:10

    Masterpiece, incredibly funny. i don't usally go for self help books cause to me they are all the same! Smile more, love more, hate less, don't give up, it's gonna be okay, it's all in your head. Blah blah blah.... but this one was the exception. Anything with curse words on the cover picks my interest :P The first half of it was my favorite, the aim of this book is to help the reader to think a little bit more clearly about what they’re choosing to find important in life and what they’re choosing to find unimportant.These are few of my favrite quotes in this book:The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the same thing.Our culture today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations: Be happier. Be healthier. Be the best, better than the rest. Be smarter, faster, richer, sexier, more popular, more productive, more envied, and more admired. Be perfect and amazing and crap out twelve-karat-gold nuggets before breakfast each morning while kissing your selfie-ready spouse and two and a half kids goodbye. Then fly your helicopter to your wonderfully fulfilling job, where you spend your days doing incredibly meaningful work that’s likely to save the planet one day. Ironically, this fixation on the positive—on what’s better, what’s superior—only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be. After all, no truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of a mirror and recite that she’s happy. She just is.Everyone and their TV commercial wants you to believe that the key to a good life is a nicer job, or a more rugged car, or a prettier girlfriend, or a hot tub with an inflatable pool for the kids. The world is constantly telling you that the path to a better life is more, more, more—buy more, own more, make more, fuck more, be more. You are constantly bombarded with messages to give a fuck about everything, all the time. Give a fuck about a new TV. Give a fuck about having a better vacation than your coworkers. Give a fuck about buying that new lawn ornament. Give a fuck about having the right kind of selfie stick.The Feedback Loop from HellThere’s an insidious quirk to your brain that, if you let it, can drive you absolutely batty. Tell me if this sounds familiar to you: You get anxious about confronting somebody in your life. That anxiety cripples you and you start wondering why you’re so anxious. Now you’re becoming anxious about being anxious. Oh no! Doubly anxious! Now you’re anxious about your anxiety, which is causing more anxiety. Quick, where’s the whiskey?

  • Kevin Kelsey
    2018-10-18 14:51

    Sort of an anti self-help book, meaning that it actually contains a useful philosophy, which is (mostly) just Buddhism dressed up a little for millennials. It's not as douchey as the title would have you think, and it's very entertaining. There's a lot of cross-over with Carl Sagan's The Demon-Haunted World, surprisingly. A lot of good advice for those, like me, who over-stress themselves about mostly nothing at all. I really loved it; I'll probably circle back to it a few more times in the future.

  • Val ⚓️ ShamelessBitchySKANKY ⚓️ Steamy Reads
    2018-11-07 14:03

    If you follow my reviews/blog at all, you probably already know that I am already a zero fucks given kind of gal when it comes to, well, bullshit.In fact, my best friend had the below picture as my contact photo in his phone for years.So it should come as no surprise that I, like many, was drawn to this book, 1) Because it has the word "fuck" in the title. Duh. And, 2) Because it's bright fucking orange. That said, the chum was in the water for me already based on that alone. But when I got to this:I knew this book and I would be friends. I am SO anti-participation trophy it's ridiculous. And, no, I don't care if that offends all the middle class helicopter moms and their special snowflakes. Your kid needs to learn how to lose.That's how character is built, my friends.And that's pretty much one of the major points in this book actually.That and, simply put, prioritizing where you put your emotional energy aka your fucks. Stuff I have a solid a handle on already. But, full transparency, I read this out of curiosity and with a slim to none expectation of there being anything life changing to take away from it.Don't get me wrong, color me surprised, I thought this book made a lot of solid points.Some really good, well articulated ones actually. I definitely do think this book has something to offer.For example, it reminded me that I need to stop hoping my sister and I form a BFF Sweet Valley High-esque sister friendship and accept the fact that we are 35+ fucking years old and it's just not gonna happen.And that's okay. She only texts me when she wants or needs something and, while we love and respect each other - we just aren't all THAT. And that's okay. As I said, it made good points - none of which the author attempted to claim creating - he just wrote it down in an easy, witty, sometimes offensive and conversational fashion with examples of his own life and personal epiphanies. It did get a little ridiculous sometimes with how much he referred to his former "bangs all the ladies" behavior. We get it, you are a walking dream machine. *eye roll*It also contradicted itself a bit in some areas, though nothing detrimental in my eyes. He also definitely walked a fine line when discussing certain issues as they pertain to women.Feminists and just some women in general will NOT appreciate this book. Not gonna lie though, right or wrong, this book definitely appealed to my snarky, crass kind of humor, reminding me once again that I apparently have the personality and sense of humor of a dude. But whatevers.That's not a fuck I care to give, apparently.

  • Nat
    2018-11-10 13:08

    I went into this admittedly with quite some skepticism and entitlement— “what is this going to teach me that I don’t already know?”— but The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is truly one of the most ground-shaping nonfiction books I’ve read so far. It will and can change a perspective, a life. And as such, this is the perfect book to give to your loved ones on holidays, birthdays...It made me rethink all the times I ever gave a fuck over some of the most irrelevant things in hindsight. It made me realize that it’s sometimes necessary to take a step back and re-evaluate why I think so-and-so on a daily basis.I also wrote down a lot of Mark Manson’s writing into my notes because I knew I would need it in the near future. And I would like to thank him for answering quite a lot of fears of mine with such a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth.The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck was both personally relevant and entertaining.Here’s a few pieces that helped me and then some:“The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.”“Because when you give too many fucks—when you give a fuck about everyone and everything—you will feel that you’re perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times, that everything is supposed to be just exactly the fucking way you want it to be. This is a sickness. And it will eat you alive. You will see every adversity as an injustice, every challenge as a failure, every inconvenience as a personal slight, every disagreement as a betrayal. You will be confined to your own petty, skull-sized hell, burning with entitlement and bluster, running circles around your very own personal Feedback Loop from Hell, in constant motion yet arriving nowhere”YES! This is exactly how I feel when I give too many fucks about things that have little lasting impact on my life.“Life is essentially an endless series of problems, Mark,” the panda told me. He sipped his drink and adjusted the little pink umbrella. “The solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one.”A moment passed, and then I wondered where the fuck the talking panda came from. And while we’re at it, who made these margaritas?“Don’t hope for a life without problems,” the panda said. “There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.”Disappointment Panda was one of the best additions to this book.“Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who run triathlons and have chiseled abs and can bench-press a small house. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who fly to the top of it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainties of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.This is not about willpower or grit. This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.” This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. Our problems birth our happiness, along with slightly better, slightly upgraded problems.See: it’s a never-ending upward spiral. And if you think at any point you’re allowed to stop climbing, I’m afraid you’re missing the point. Because the joy is in the climb itself.”This book is slowly but surely shifting my world.“If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.”“Honesty is a good value because it’s something you have complete control over, it reflects reality, and it benefits others (even if it’s sometimes unpleasant). Popularity, on the other hand, is a bad value. If that’s your value, and if your metric is being the most popular guy/girl at the dance party, much of what happens will be out of your control: you don’t know who else will be at the event, and you probably won’t know who half those people are. Second, the value/metric isn’t based on reality: you may feel popular or unpopular, when in fact you have no fucking clue what anybody else really thinks about you. (Side Note: As a rule, people who are terrified of what others think about them are actually terrified of all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at them.)”That side note is speaking the truth!!!“I’m not saying that this excused what my ex did—not at all. But recognizing my mistakes helped me to realize that I perhaps hadn’t been the innocent victim I’d believed myself to be. That I had a role to play in enabling the shitty relationship to continue for as long as it did. After all, people who date each other tend to have similar values. And if I dated someone with shitty values for that long, what did that say about me and my values? I learned the hard way that if the people in your relationships are selfish and doing hurtful things, it’s likely you are too, you just don’t realize it.”Taking responsibly for your actions, but not blaming yourself was one of the most valuable lessons I got from Mark Manson.“A lot of people might hear all of this and then say something like, “Okay, but how? I get that my values suck and that I avoid responsibility for all of my problems and that I’m an entitled little shit who thinks the world should revolve around me and every inconvenience I experience—but how do I change?”And to this I say, in my best Yoda impersonation: “Do, or do not; there is no ‘how.’ ”You are already choosing, in every moment of every day, what to give a fuck about, so change is as simple as choosing to give a fuck about something else.It really is that simple. It’s just not easy.It’s not easy because you’re going to feel like a loser, a fraud, a dumbass at first. You’re going to be nervous. You’re going to freak out. You may get pissed off at your wife or your friends or your father in the process. These are all side effects of changing your values, of changing the fucks you’re giving. But they are inevitable.It’s simple but really, really hard.”“Growth is an endlessly iterative process. When we learn something new, we don’t go from “wrong” to “right.” Rather, we go from wrong to slightly less wrong. And when we learn something additional, we go from slightly less wrong to slightly less wrong than that, and then to even less wrong than that, and so on. We are always in the process of approaching truth and perfection without actually ever reaching truth or perfection.”He’s changing my world right now.“We all have values for ourselves. We protect these values. We try to live up to them and we justify them and maintain them. Even if we don’t mean to, that’s how our brain is wired. As noted before, we’re unfairly biased toward what we already know, what we believe to be certain. If I believe I’m a nice guy, I’ll avoid situations that could potentially contradict that belief. If I believe I’m an awesome cook, I’ll seek out opportunities to prove that to myself over and over again. The belief always takes precedence. Until we change how we view ourselves, what we believe we are and are not, we cannot overcome our avoidance and anxiety. We cannot change.In this way, “knowing yourself” or “finding yourself” can be dangerous. It can cement you into a strict role and saddle you with unnecessary expectations. It can close you off to inner potential and outer opportunities.I say don’t find yourself. I say never know who you are. Because that’s what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the differences in others.”I didn't even realize I felt this way until I saw it so clearly on paper.“There’s a kind of self-absorption that comes with fear based on an irrational certainty. When you assume that your plane is the one that’s going to crash, or that your project idea is the stupid one everyone is going to laugh at, or that you’re the one everyone is going to choose to mock or ignore, you’re implicitly telling yourself, “I’m the exception; I’m unlike everybody else; I’m different and special.”This is narcissism, pure and simple. You feel as though your problems deserve to be treated differently, that your problems have some unique math to them that doesn’t obey the laws of the physical universe.My recommendation: don’t be special; don’t be unique. Redefine your metrics in mundane and broad ways. Choose to measure yourself not as a rising star or an undiscovered genius. Choose to measure yourself not as some horrible victim or dismal failure. Instead, measure yourself by more mundane identities: a student, a partner, a friend, a creator.”That thing about the plane is 100% me!! So I get it know: if you think you’re special—decide not to be.“The desire to avoid rejection at all costs, to avoid confrontation and conflict, the desire to attempt to accept everything equally and to make everything cohere and harmonize, is a deep and subtle form of entitlement. Entitled people, because they feel as though they deserve to feel great all the time, avoid rejecting anything because doing so might make them or someone else feel bad. And because they refuse to reject anything, they live a valueless, pleasure-driven, and self-absorbed life. All they give a fuck about is sustaining the high a little bit longer, to avoid the inevitable failures of their life, to pretend the suffering away.”“If you make a sacrifice for someone you care about, it needs to be because you want to, not because you feel obligated or because you fear the consequences of not doing so. If your partner is going to make a sacrifice for you, it needs to because he or she genuinely wants to, not because you’ve manipulated the sacrifice through anger or guilt. Acts of love are valid only if they’re performed without conditions or expectations.”Damn, I wasn’t prepared for The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck to completely change my worldview in such a meaningful way. I will cherish this book for a long time to come.4.5/5 stars*Note: I'm an Amazon Affiliate. If you're interested in buying The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, just click on the image below to go through my link. I'll make a small commission!*This review and more can be found on my blog.

  • Lenore
    2018-11-11 16:47

    What a load of self-indulgent, sexist codswallop.

  • Jen
    2018-10-19 17:07

    Based on the title, I was pretty stoked for this, and the introductory essay explaining the author's Not Giving a F*ck theory made a lot of sense to me and made me really happy. Essentially, he says that the internet and the media demand that we give a f*ck about everything, but we only have so much time on Earth and so many f*cks to give and we have to choose who and what we spend those f*cks on. Makes sense.Unfortunately, the rest of the book turns into the same self-help drivel you see in any other "how to be happy" kind of book, only Manson starts to present the information with a tone reminiscent of an Andrew Dice Clay routine. No bueno. I ended up having to bail.

  • Mary Monaghan
    2018-10-26 17:12

    I started out liking this book, I really did. By the time I was halfway in, his smug attitude about things he frankly knows jack shit about were getting on my nerves. He made some excellent points, all of which have been made countless times by other, more competent writers. Read Sartre, Camus, Siddhartha by Herman Hesse, and various Buddhist texts instead. Regurgitating Eastern philosophy and existentialism while swearing a lot only gets you so far. I stopped reading and returned this book.

  • libbyscreen
    2018-10-18 15:55

    I'm not actually done yet, but this book is becoming more problematic by the page. In re: false memories and page 128: False memories are absolutely a thing. But when the example you use to illustrate this fact is a 1980's feminist who falsely accused her father of abuse and you follow up with "in the early 1980s and 1990s hundreds of innocent people were wrongly accused of sexual violence under similar circumstances. Many of them went to prison for it" you are being supremely irresponsible. The casual reader who is not familiar with sexual violence and rape and abuse could easily walk away with the impression that survivors of sexual assault often make up their assault. This is utterly, utterly untrue - we know that rape and incest are some of the most under reported and under prosecuted crimes, and that the possibility of not being believed plays a big role in that.***Finally finished. One star. You don't need to read this book.

  • James
    2018-10-28 16:02

    I'd review this book but I just don't... What's the phrase?You can buy the book here.

  • Anne
    2018-11-05 18:08

    My, my! What a catchy title!I wanted to see what all the hype was about, so I picked this up. And now that I'm done? Well, I agree with everything Manson says, but (like other reviewers have mentioned) everything he's written about is common sense stuff. Is that revolutionary?Maybe.What does it say about our society in general that any of what he's saying is...well, remotely necessary to say!?When the basic premise of a bestseller is that you should stop comparing yourself to what you see on television, movies, and social media, and just be content to be the best version of yourself - and scads of people find this to be awe-inspiring? Then perhaps it really did need to be said.The gist of this "groundbreaking" book is that there's no way to insulate yourself from bad times, and even if you could, those hardships are what make us better people. One of the biggest problems we seem to have is this nonsensical idea that chasing happiness is a worthwhile goal. I mean, it sounds great on paper, but it's not in any way, shape, or form realisitc...or healthy. Life will not give you a happy ending. Period. Ending are always sad. And we need to get over this ridiculous idea that at some point we'll get to sigh a big sigh of relief because our fairytale Happily Ever After has arrived.We can all save ourselves the trouble of trying to find happiness by just realizing that we need to choose to be happy now. Enjoy the small stuff, my friends, because tomorrow might just suck a giant dick. Your life will be good until it isn't. You'll be in love until you aren't. Your job will be fulfilling until you lose it. You'll be alive until you're dead. And nothing you do will change that.Ok, granted, that doesn't sound awesome.But the point is, if you stop trying to live for some future Happiness High, prioritize what means the most to you now, and live with a fearless attitude towards the future? Then you're going to be much more content (and yes, happy) than someone who is constantly trying to measure up to unrealistic goals they've set in order achieve a sense of fulfillment.The end.The book itself is fairly short and Manson's voice isn't terribly annoying.Read it or not. I don't give a fuck.

  • Sinead
    2018-10-22 15:08

    Ego driven rantings Wish I could say I couldn't give a fu#k about spending £10.99 on this serious heap of rubbish, but yes, i do give a fu#k that this ego driven, talentless author swindled me out of money for a heap of rubbish. He is probably having a great old laugh at the fact that his mantra `dont try` has resulted in an awful written book, full of cliches, calling reader `dumbass`, referring to us wanting to feel jennifer aniston`s t#ts , and bigging himself up generally. He probably finds it hilarious that a load of suckers, like me , bought it. The zen in me tells me lesson is learned, don't fall for arresting titles and stop being impressed by introductory chapters referencing Bukowski. Don't make this mistake again!!!Ah, the money probably brings him little happiness. He probably in dire need of therapy or funds to hire ladies resembling Friends characters or writing classes. All is well with the world and I am happy these are much needed things my contribution can go toward.All's ok now. Don't give a fu#k.

  • Christy
    2018-11-14 14:08

    4 stars! This book wasn't only about giving no fucks, it was about giving fucks about only the important things. If you're going to read it, I would recommend the audio book. I thought the narration was great and it was highly entertaining and made me laugh out loud more than once!!

  • Erin
    2018-10-27 13:13

    I don't read self-help. I simply don't believe in the self-help genre. If you need a book to help you live your life you have bigger problems than whatever brought you to that book. That may seem harsh but its just my opinion and you are free to ignore it.Since I don't read self-help, you may be asking "Erin, Why did you read this book? Blame Popsugar. I'm doing the Popsugar 2017 Reading challenge and needed to read a book from a genre I don't usually read. As you can see if you look at my book shelf I pretty much read every genre. So I narrowed it down to 3 genres: Self-help, Christian, or Amish Romance. I picked Self-help. Mark Manson proof that anyone can get a book deal. I understand that he has a very popular blog and publishing is about money but God this book is bad. I found myself speed reading it just so it would end. Mark Manson is shallow, smug, and completely uninformed about everything that he was trying to talk about. You know what I don't give a fuck about? This book. DON'T READ IT. AVOID AT ALL COST! Popsugar 2017 Reading Challenge: Bestseller from a Genre I Don't Normally Read.

  • Amy Joseph
    2018-10-23 16:53

    Have you ever been in a bar and had a know-it-all tell you everything you need to know about life without any evidence to back up what he's saying? That's what this book felt like.

  • Lyn
    2018-10-15 17:09

    A lot of necessary to hear hard truths.There is a distinction between what the title implies and what Manson intends. Manson is essentially inviting us to only care about what’s important and let the rest take care of itself.I’ve been accused of indifference or “living in a bubble” for years because I don’t follow politics and rarely watch the news. My mantra is the serenity prayer:God grant me the serenityto accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.My Muslim friends will sometimes say “Inshallah” which literally translates into “if Allah wills it” or “If God wills it”. When I first heard this, I mistakenly thought it was akin to “screw it” or “I don’t care” but I think this is more similar to the serenity prayer and also what Manson is talking about.I learned years ago that I cannot help or fix everything and to even try is unfair to me, the people I most care about and ultimately the people I am trying to help also. Spread yourself too thin, care too much, give a f*** about stuff that is beyond your reach, and you’re setting yourself up for failure.Manson steers clear of religion for the most part (he does reference Buddhism a few times) and most of his self-help is philosophical in nature. He also provides plenty of illuminating anecdotes to illustrate his perspicacious observations. This also made me consider Aaron James’ 2012 book Assholes: A Theory as Manson spends a fair amount of time describing the actions and motivations of those among us who feel entitled.A fun and insightful book.

  • Chance Lee
    2018-11-07 16:47

    I'm not one for self-help books, but this one spoke to me: "The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience." I don't know how to review this book without typing out the whole book, so I'm going to try something different: to be brief. This book provides support for someone who wants to live in reality, someone who doesn't want to buy into our national capitalist mindset that life is about chasing one high after another. This book encourages you to embrace conflict, to be comfortable feeling uncomfortable, and to be confident in finding out what you truly believe in, then standing up for it. Fuck being likeable. Take responsibility for your own life, stop trying to solve other's problems (a big one for me to work on!), ask questions, and always try to make things better. "Happiness is a struggle."My one criticism of this book eventually turned into a positive. Around Chapter Six my interest started to wane because Manson provided me with very little I didn't already know. Plus, he shares his own story about entering his adult life at "rock bottom." His life's lowest points: getting caught with marijuana at school, his parents' divorce, not finding a job immediately after college. My initial reaction was, are you fucking kidding me? If that's rock bottom, my life exists in a subterranean cavern. However, Mark Manson's life is not mine. Everyone's experiences are subjective. And, in a way, I admire him even more because of our differences. He led an easy life compared to mine, but he recognized his own privileges and entitlements and worked toward fixing them. Then, he took his own personal realizations about life and shared them in this book, which in turn helps me and others. I rarely read a book that makes me want to thank the author, but -- Thanks for this, Mark.

  • Jaclyn Salem
    2018-11-10 16:17

    I knew after the first chapter that I probably wasn't the intended audience for this book. Most of it was sort of a "duh" for me, but I continued on in hopes I would learn something new...WOW, this author is SO self-indulgent. He misses no opportunity to remind us about what a complete "fuckboi" he was in his twenties. The problem with this is that his tone (and the fact that he brings it up over and over and over and over again) makes it sound like it is almost a point of pride rather than something to be remorseful about. There are a lot of (re-packaged Buddhist and psych) truth nuggets in here, but they're definitely mired in a lot of privileged bullshit.

  • Cheri
    2018-11-01 17:08

    Definitely written by and for straight, white, entitled males. I have no fucks to give for this book or the author.

  • Mischenko
    2018-10-25 14:11

    I have mixed emotions on this. I was totally into reading it and it seemed great at first, but truthfully, for me, the best chapters were the last two. It's a positive message, but glad I didn't pay for it as it felt repetitious to me. I listened to it on audible and enjoyed the narrator. 3 stars...

  • Raquel Brune
    2018-10-16 20:03

    No he podido ni acabarlo. Supongo que parte de la culpa es mía, que he visto una portada y un títulos llamativos y me he dejado llevar por el marketing.A lo mejor hay personas a las que este libro les ayuda a mejorar su vida y que les abre la mente a nuevos horizontes y ¡Ey pues genial! Me alegra que alguien pueda disfrutar de la experiencia de leer este libro, pero no es mi caso por 3 motivos.1. Discrepo con el 90% de lo que se dice en este libro.2. La falta de bibliografía y documentación. "Esto es así porque yo lo digo que soy muy listo y punto" no me parece una justificación suficiente para que el autor hable como si todo lo que dice fuesen verdades absolutas. Me he sentido manspleineada por un libro. ¿Sabes ese hombre con el que empieza a salir tu amiga y quedáis un día los tres para que te lo presente y el tipo se tira toda la tarde hablando sin parar sobre lo mucho que le ha enseñado la vida y sobre cómo funciona el mundo sin ni siquiera preguntarte a qué te dedicas? pues una sensación parecida. 3. Los chascarrillos y comentarios RANCIOS y continuos que además son completamente innecesarios y que transmiten una serie de valores con los que no me puedo sentir identificada.Este libro no es para mí.

  • TS Chan
    2018-11-13 17:11

    3.5 stars.I don't usually reach for self-help books. However, the title of this book piqued my curiosity and it perpetually appears on the main page of Audible as a best seller, thus furthering my interest to pick it up. As an audiobook, I did enjoy this quite a fair bit as the narrator was good and brought life to the narrative. Admittedly, the advice contained herein was not ground-breaking, but delivered in a refreshing and humourous manner. It served as a reminder as to what we probably already know in the deep, dark recesses of our minds, but are too caught up in the hectic modern life and excesses for greater inner reflection. I find a few of the real-life examples quoted to be quite relevant and effective.Who you are is defined by what you're willing to struggle for.The title is slightly misleading as the book is not so much as to how not to give a f*ck but to choose what is important enough to give a f*ck about. It is about getting our priorities and values right so that we pick the right battles which truly matter in making our lives count for something. If we start giving a f*ck about every little thing, we will end up spending too much energy on trivial matters and being generally uncontented about life. While it is fine not to feel positive all the time, learning how to channel that in the right direction and taking charge of your life where it is possible to make a difference are the essential messages the book is getting across to the reader. The one theme that was discussed which I feel very strongly about was concerning the 'sense of entitlement' and how this can be destructive in the way one views his or her life. And social media is probably the biggest culprit in propagating this negative view to a whole new level. Being constantly bombarded with reality shows, Instagrams and blogs of beautiful people enjoying a beautiful life, we start to ask "Why can't I be like so-and-so?" or "Why can't I have this or that too?". As a 14-year old niece of mine rightly pointed out, Instagram represents filtered existence. It seems almost natural now for most to block out the unfavourable or darker segments of life or humanity - such as poverty, hunger, war, violence, human trafficking, prostitution, etc. Instead, we moan and groan about the 'unfortunate circumstances' of not being able to own nice cars and big houses, have great clothes and the requisite body to go with it, go on expensive holidays, or obtain that 'much-deserved' promotion at work - the list goes on and on.Anyway, I'm rambling - this is a topic that I can go on and on about, but that's not the point about this review. If you're curious, this is worth a read as it is quite funny and does not take up much time to finish. Even though much of what is said was nothing new, sometimes we just need that extra nudge.This review can also be found at Booknest

  • Bonny
    2018-11-03 16:11

    I think The Subtle Art... might have had more impact upon me if I was 20-something instead of 59-years-old. The language isn't really an issue (it just becomes another word that doesn't even seem to have much meaning); it's more that Manson is repetitive and doesn't offer anything original that most people haven't learned for themselves in a few decades of experience. For me, the same ideas are expressed much more elegantly, cogently, and thoroughly in The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking.

  • Esil
    2018-10-24 12:07

    3.5 starsI’m not sure what possessed me to listen to this audiobook. I have ZERO interest in self help books. But once I started, I thought it was good enough to keep going.The title is there for shock value, but it’s not a particularly shocking book, unless you’re easily put off by swearing. The author is not really advocating that we all drop everything and run to the beach. He’s arguing for recalibrating what matters to you, and acting on it.The secondary title - “a counterintuitive approach to living a good life” - is deceptive. There’s nothing counterintuitive here. There’s a lot of common sense. But it’s pretty good common sense. And also timely in many ways. So I didn’t have any aha moments, but I nodded my head a fair bit.The question that kept buzzing at the back of my mind is how likely people are to be able to make dramatic changes in their lives by being told to shift the focus on what matters to them. In other words, easier said than done. But still worth thinking about every now and then.I think I’ll stick to my ZERO self help books policy, but this wasn’t a bad foray out of my usual comfort zones.

  • Claudia
    2018-10-20 17:01

    Preciso de explicar porque dei uma estrela a este livro no GoodReads apesar dele ter uma boa pontuação na plataforma. Eu não tenho problemas com livros deste género, adoro a temática. Estou sempre em busca de livros inspiradores, originais e criativos. Pensava que este livro seria assim. Estava tão enganada. Há semanas no top de vendas previa ser uma leitura espetacular. Não é, vão por mim. O livro não vale um caracol de tão mau. Primeiro, onde é que Mark sustenta a sua teoria? Na sua própria experiência. O que fez ele de sucesso? Conseguiu vencer muitos livros através do discurso patético armado em engraçado. Para mim livros destes são puro aproveitamento. Tenta impingir às pessoas uma teoria completamente maluca, cheia de exemplos que nada têm a ver com a realidade e as pessoas acreditam que ele está certo. Não vos faz lembrar nada? Chamo de discurso do bandido. Separei algumas frases maravilhosas deste livro. Ironia, claro. “Já percebeste que, às vezes, quando te importas menos com alguma coisa, acaba por correr melhor? Já notaste que geralmente é a pessoa menos empenhada que acaba se dando bem? Já reparaste que às vezes, quando paras de te importar tanto, tudo começa a entrar nos eixos?” Esta é a melhor. Claro que a pessoa menos empenhada tem mais sucesso. Não é Mark, seu lindo? Tu sabes bem o que dizes, escreveste um livro medíocre e vendes imenso. Palmas, quem diz a verdade não merce castigo. “Se buscar o positivo é negativo, então buscar o negativo gera o positivo.” Obviamente que quando somos pessimistas vamos encontrar as energias positivas. Como o Bukowski. Ele adorava ser velho, bêbado e pobre. Então esforçava-se imenso para continuar a ser assim só na esperança de vender muitos livros e ficar rico. Quem sabe o primeiro do euromilhões para tanta negatividade. “O problema das pessoas que se agarram a qualquer banalidade como se daquilo dependesse sua maldita vida é que elas não têm mais nada interessante com que se importar.”  Sim, claro. A senhora que ele dá como exemplo passa os dias a cortar talões de desconto.  E segundo o Mark ela faz isso porque não tem mais nada para de interessante. Até pode ser uma pessoa sozinha, deprimida, doente, mas não, vamos generalizar e dizer que ela não tem nada de interessante para fazer. Aliás, ele faz isso constantemente ao longo do livro. Eu resumo este livro. Não ligues muitos às coisas, tenta relaxar, enfrenta os teus medos e quanto mais negativo mais alcanças. Porque desta forma não estás sempre a tentar provar nada, nem a martelar a tua cabeça e ficares frustrado. Vais morrer, portanto não te preocupes muito, terás sucesso se mantiveres essa postura. Não ligues aos outros, eles não são um obstáculo. Só tens é de continuar a fazer aquilo que queres e dizer umas quantas asneiras pelo meio. Se fores arrogante, melhor ainda. Interessa é tentares manter a graça, cair na graça e se não caíres paciência. O livro está cheio de generalizações e exemplos muito ao jeito do autor. Tenta ser engraçado, mas eu dei longos suspiros de aborrecimento em vez de gargalhadas. Os mal-educados, sem papas na língua, nas tintas para tudo e todos nunca serão pessoas de sucesso. Tenho outra definição para isso. Não recomendo. Nada. 

  • crankmuffin
    2018-10-17 16:56

    I was expecting an enjoyable read on not taking things too seriously. Instead I got a collection of banal insights, wrapped in supposedly funny dirty-talk. References to philosophy/literature were reminiscent of an author who just skimmed through "100 ideas in X you need to know" and didn't bother further. They were forced and off-beat especially considering the overall tone, which itself fluctuated between the earnestness of self-help drivel and the tongue-in-cheek of comedy memoirs. Ironically, this was the only convincing argument made to support the point on making choices to narrow down your options. Looks like the author didn’t even follow his own advice.

  • Sam Quixote
    2018-10-27 14:50

    Eye-catching title, eh? Unfortunately that’s about all that really stands out about Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, which is actually a very ordinary self-help book - and I’ve not even read a lot of self-help books either, that’s how broad, generic and unremarkable a lot of the stuff he talks about here is! Still, its ideas are ultimately positive and worth re-reading and keeping in mind so I can’t say I found the book a total waste of time. The book’s title and main thesis can be summed up as: finding and caring about the shit that matters to you while ignoring the shit that doesn’t - see what I mean when I say it’s unremarkable? But wait, there’s more! Manson has more vapid platitudes like how life’s about the journey, not the destination, how finding meaning in life is better than accumulating material possessions, and that, seeing as we’re all going to die one day, why waste our limited time on shit that doesn’t matter? Not that I disagree with any of that but there’s nothing new or special about that information and you definitely don’t need to read this book to hear that kind of stuff. In fact, you don’t even need to read it anywhere at all as these ideas are so ubiquitous in pop culture as to be cliched! But, like I said, the book also contains useful messages that are worth hearing whether or not you’ve come across them before. Messages like pain and struggle are necessary and unavoidable parts of life. That rising up to challenges and facing hard truths about ourselves help us grow as well as make us stronger at weathering the shit life inevitably throws our way. That failure - so long as we learn from it - eventually leads to success so we shouldn’t be afraid to keep trying even if we’ll probably fail. That dissatisfaction and being uncomfortable are good as they motivate us to change and improve ourselves and our circumstances. I agree that perspective and values are important and that adjusting these can lead to a more satisfying existence. This means accepting that you’ll probably never be rich and famous, that you’re probably not an undiscovered genius or great artist, or that anything you’ll ever do will have any lasting impact on future generations. And that realisation can be freeing to pursue the things that only matter to you.As Manson notes, nothing is certain, which is a profoundly obvious yet difficult lesson I’m slowly learning and re-learning all the time. We also have a tendency to create our own narratives that are confining and are worth exploding as they’re largely bullshit. And I totally agree with and can personally attest that taking more responsibility in your life leads to far greater happiness. Jocko Willink has a similar philosophy: Discipline Equals Freedom. But I don’t buy Manson’s anecdote that when he googled the quote “With great power comes great responsibility” he couldn’t find out who originally said it. As a comics reader, I instantly know it was Spider-Man’s Uncle Ben but I can’t believe a Google search wouldn’t tell him that! He’s right though when he says that excessive freedoms don’t lead to happiness. You only need to look at the toxic Social Justice movement currently poisoning Western politics whose adherents are obsessed with personal freedoms - none of those people are ever happy! His points on the importance of boundaries in relationships and healthy conflict stemming from honesty though were banal and unnecessary. I’m a terrible procrastinator so I really liked the “Do Something” principle where you just do whatever it is you should be doing rather than waiting for the “right moment” or inspiration to strike. The idea is that once you start doing something, especially badly, you’ll eventually start doing it right. Action leads to motivation leads to inspiration leads to success - basically a practical application of not being afraid of failure and one I’ll be trying out myself. I wasn’t that interested in Manson’s autobiographical anecdotes, which were mostly mundane, nor did I find a lot of the examples he chose to illustrate his ideas to be that compelling, though I do like the possibility that Shakespeare wrote Romeo & Juliet as a satire on love especially as so many view it as the ultimate romance story! I also don’t agree that caring less about something means you’ll do better at it or that great people become great because they don’t think they’re great which is why they work harder than most. Both are, like a lot of the statements he makes, an oversimplified generalisation. Maybe he’s right for some but maybe some others already think they’re great and are driven by something else? And, like all self-help books, it needs to be vague enough to be a one-size fits all for the widest possible appeal so I’m not sure how helpful it’s going to be in finding its audience’s meaning in their individual lives - it certainly didn’t mine! But on the whole Manson is a decent writer who’s able to put his ideas across quite clearly in an accessible way. The messaging may be fairly commonplace and underwhelming but I found enough good stuff here to have gotten something out of reading it and if you’ve read no self-help books at all you might find this even more useful! The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is kinda worth giving a fuck about, just don’t expect much from it.

  • Book Riot Community
    2018-11-09 20:10

    This is a book that every human being should read. It’s less about not giving a fuck and more about what is worth giving a fuck about. And there are things that are worth giving a fuck about! In fact, Manson tells us that having problems is a good thing… only it’s important that we fill our lives mostly with problems that we want to have. Sound confusing? Read the book. He’ll also hit it home that life isn’t fair or easy, and it’s not supposed to be. In fact, if it was you’d be bored to death and would be way less happy than you think you’d be.— Wallace Yovetichfrom The Best Books We Read In January 2017: http://bookriot.com/2017/02/01/riot-r...

  • João Carlos
    2018-10-30 13:03

    Zé Povinho porRafael Bordalo PinheiroSe há livros que não tenho nenhum interesse em ler – porque efectivamente não vislumbro qualquer benefício em lê-los – são os de Auto-Ajuda ou Afins.Ao ver este livro exposto numa livraria – embirrei imediatamente com a capa ”A Arte Subtil de Saber Dizer Que Se F*da - Uma abordagem contraintuitiva para viver uma vida melhor”. Não entendo como se pode “alterar” um título tão sugestivo e apelativo, substituindo um “o” por uma estrela ou um asterisco ou seja lá o que for.Mas lá o comprei…Ultimamente (talvez nos últimos dez anos) algumas pessoas minhas conhecidas dizem-me “tens um feitio de merda” (verdade, verdadinha, em sentido figurado) e outros dizem-me “és um egoísta do carvalho” (egoísta, sim, uma das minhas virtudes; mas do “carvalho”, pura mentira; porque sendo engenheiro agrícola de formação, sempre trabalhei na floresta, plantando mais eucaliptos (no quinto ano da Universidade dos Açores vendi-me rapidamente ao império de uma empresa multinacional sueca finlandesa – na altura Stora/Enso – em detrimento de um opção de Director de Golfe e Greenkeeper – com muito lazer e pouco trabalho), mas também, mais tarde, plantando muitos milhares de pinheiros bravos e mansos, e de sobreiros; e verdadeiramente pouquíssimos carvalhos – o que só confirma a inveracidade do termo quando dirigido e aplicado ao meu caso em particular. Por outro lado, as minhas amigas e os meus amigos – aqueles que me conhecem bem (Será que alguém me conhece? Será que alguém me conhece bem?) -, dizem-me que sou um homem cheio de virtudes e de atributos, sobretudo, nas questões culturais, de lazer e profissionais. Se no início o cinema dominava as minhas preferências – daí que a minha alcunha universitária fosse “João cineasta” e o visionamento de pelo menos três sessões contínuas no cinema Quarteto -, o que é um facto indesmentível e rapidamente o compreendi é que para assegurar o meu futuro profissional deveria trocar o consumo da película cinematográfica pelo consumo do papel. Daí a opção racional da referida troca – ler muito, ler cada vez mais. Assim como, também facilmente deduzo o número de árvores que alguns escritores deveriam plantar para compensar os excelentes livros que escrevem (neste caso, um menor número de árvores) e outros que seriam impelidos ou mesmo forçados a plantar (em número muito maior) de forma a compensar a desflorestação e os danos ambientais associados às suas fracas obras literárias. (Já tinha pensado neste assunto: vou começar com essa avaliação precisamente a partir do livro " Limões na Madrugada").Concluindo…Mesmo para uma pessoa convencida e impulsiva como eu – sempre é apropriado e crucial ler “alguns” livros de Auto-Ajuda ou de Desenvolvimento Pessoal e Espiritual. ”Este livro vai ajudá-lo a pensar um pouco mais claramente acerca daquilo que decide considerar importante na vida e daquilo sobre que decide pensar, «que se foda».Acredito que hoje em dia enfrentamos uma séria epidemia psicológica, devido à qual as pessoas já não percebem que não faz mal, de vez em quanto, as coisas serem uma treta.” (Pág. 26)

  • Michael Britt
    2018-10-17 18:06

    "Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about the pain, you become unstoppable."I can't explain how much i love this book. It was even more fun listening to it than reading it. Plus, it's a very short listen; about 6 hours if I remember correctly. It starts off pretty light-hearted and funny with some good points. Then it gets pretty heavy by the end. The last 2 chapter were probably my favorite. It's not a book about giving no fucks at all, only psychopaths and liars don't care about anything, but more so about figuring out what is worthy of the fucks you'll give. Whether you think you give too many fucks or aren't sure what to give a fuck about, read this book. At the very least it's worth using one of your audible credits on.

  • Amanda - Mrs B's Book Reviews
    2018-10-16 18:57

    This one comes with an interesting title! I wouldn’t normally reach for a self help book, but Mark Moran’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, was the pick for our book club this month. It also formed part of challenge read on 'read a self help guide' I have going with a fellow bookworm. I decided to give this book a chance and I went into reading it with an open mind, despite my reservations about the bold title. I surprised myself by enjoying this book. I found it a highly readable, direct, humorous and relatable guide. I wouldn’t say this is a self help book as such, but more a strategy in self evaluation. Many of the ideas and approaches Moran suggests we should take to change our lives are simple to implement and most probably have in the back of our minds – yet Moran suggest what we lack is courage to act on this. What Moran does is put these ideas in spotlight and his book works to give the reader the encouragement needed to put his notions into practice. What I appreciated the most about The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck was insertion of real life stories within this text. Moran linked his approaches to concrete scenarios, which gave his guide much more brevity. From the author Moran’s own back story from hitting rock bottom to becoming a blogger extraordinaire, to celebrity examples such as former Beatles drummer Pete Best and even World War II survivours - the message is clear in all cases. What almost breaks you may in fact make you a stronger, happier and better person.